Marriage and "the family"
When we marry our spouse, often times we are marrying a person we fall in love with. What most of us come to realize is that we are also marrying their family. Marital discord due to family involvement is one of the greatest challenges couples face. What is important to remember is that marriage is a commitment of 3: Man, Wife and God. This holy trinity must never be infiltrated with others opinions, thoughts, or remarks. Of course it is not easy dealing with overbearing parents but as adults, who have entered into the holy sanctimony of marriage, it is important to remind yourself daily that boundaries does not mean you do not love your external family. Rather, it means that you have entered a new circle of love and faith with a life long partner, and you must protect that against all odds. It is important that a marriage is sacred to the trinity – your brother, mother, sister and even your children, must never interfere with the original love that propelled you to come together. Speaking to someone to address boundaries, and/or assist in creating them, can help to remind you of your original vows, to both your spouse, and God.
Genesis 1:27-28: “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.' "